There are a few professions I stay away from when it comes to dating the first occupation I will not date is law enforcement, specifically, cops. 👮♀️
I noticed this over the years it is not a new hypothesis. It seems not only police officers and men in the military are often the men who are craving acceptance and want complete dominance over others either because they feel they are inadequate in some way or because they fetishize about being in control. Sometimes these unhinged men go into the law enforcement field because they are men who are missing the love of their mothers or fathers, maybe both. These are men who were teased. These are men who have a small stature, sometimes not all the time. These men have been rejected in some way usually by women who are out of their league. They retaliate against their deep-seated inadequateness by taking advantage of others in irreparable ways like killing innocent, unarmed black people or raping women with relentless napoleon like authority.
Not all but many police officers often have issues with domestic violence. Recently I posted a post on Facebook about this topic and within minutes a few of my Facebook families responded with stories of their first husbands who were in military or law enforcement. Law enforcement men are known for being first husbands. There was only one objection to my Facebook post. The person who was *wrong expressed their opinion she said that the same can be said for athletes who she describes as ( aggressive) Doctors ( God complex) and so on. She believes people are a compilation of their upbringing, beliefs, and personal choices. She continued to say “water seeks it’s own level” She stated, If a person was an A$$ before joining an organization they will gravitate toward other a@$$es once inside and continue their A$$dom. While this Facebook friend has a point but unequivocally men who have had a neglectful upbringing made the wrong personal choices and often gravitate to law enforcement line of work to fix their unending need for a hug which then materializes In the need to dominate over others who have no power.
Sure there are bad doctors or teachers etc, etc. However, you don’t see gobs of bad teachers killing kids for example. My Facebook friend mentioned athletes, well, that’s another category of professions that I do not date. Especially football players they sometimes feel they are God’s gift to women and they can also have undiagnosed or ignored brain injuries that typically have knocked the common sense out of their head. The garden varieties of professional Athletes are a no for dating material!
Another profession my Facebook friend mentioned was doctors some types of doctors I have heard are difficult to live with due to their rigid perfectionistic personalities and also some doctors do have hectic schedules and stress levels that would make a happy life difficult. Another Facebook friend of mine who is a realtor commented who is left? I responded not realtors!! Men realtors are not good husbands. As a real estate agent, I know it takes a unique person to take a job that is 100% commission. Realtors have special personalities that help us excel in sales and deal with lots of different personalities and help us assist others with expensive and important life decisions. But I do not want to date a man that is in real estate, they often are looking for a new high like they are looking for their next transaction. They have addiction problems whether it be with substance abuse or the next new woman, skirt-chasers.
The pictures above are of Chris Chrisley, he came up when I Googled “flamboyant men” and he fits some categories I mention here not only is he a real estate agent who is under investigation for a real estate money crime, allegedly, he is a Christian married man who is very suspect and flamboyant “undercover” gay man. I love him he is a good time and I didn’t even mean for a more perfect example to pop up.Again, I love me some Mr. Chrisley but straight he is not. God bless his heart I hope his case settles in his favor. This leads me to my last profession…
Speaking of women… I don’t date guys in retail. I worked in retail when I was in my teens and 20’s and a disproportionate amount of men, married or single were secretly or openly gay, switching all around the store. I love my gays, they love me as well. Some, a little too much as I had to tell a few that they need to be real with themselves and their families and leave me out of that love triangle we can party we can be friends, but we can’t date, I can’t be your beard. There’s more but that’s all the time I have today…
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